How to Attract a Man

Attracting a man has to do with learning many things about men. These include, learning how a man thinks, how a man reacts to things and even his personality in general. Some of these secrets or tips that I am going to reveal here, works for almost all men, including the one you are currently dating now or the one you have been eying, so rejoice!
Attracting men comes in two different manners, physical attraction and the moral attraction. I know quite sure that before mentioning this, you know already about attracting a man physically. This has to do with your physical appearances like, the kind of cloth you wear, your body movements and steps, through eye contacts, and may be touching the man in a manner that sets his heart desires burning wild. Btu I am telling you today, as somebody who researched about this using himself as a case study, that these things doesn’t always move a man to a very lasting level.
Therefore, I will rather advice you to do away with the physical attraction of men, and focus more the moral attraction, because this has a greater impact on men, and also last longer. This form of attraction, will cause the man to seek for a way of getting more and more intimate with you, no what it takes him, he is not ready to loose or experiment with you. Unless, may be you are not ready for a long lasting relationship, and you are ready to do with a fling, then go for the physical attraction.
But if your are ready and determined to attract a man that will stay together with you forever if possible, then you must let go the physical attraction, though it works very fast and it also goes very fast.
Therefore, let us now talk about how to attract a man morally, which lasts longer. In order to attract a man morally, you must possess some level or natural traits or behaviors that conforms to men’s desires. These traits include, being independent,, compassionate, confident at all time, and may be adventurous. These things are called irresistible traits that attract men. Every man likes an independent woman, they also enjoy a company of a confident and adventurous lady.
As a matter of fact, for you to attract that man of your desire, do not make the mistake of trying to let him know or have the impression that you need help or that you are feeling insecure. If you do, you have definitely sent him off, and if he do stays, it is for a while and may be, for a fling.
Again, to attract a man, like I said earlier, you must show confidence. To prove this, do not commit this other mistake of condemning your past or previous dates (boyfriends) to his hearing, this will give a feeling of insecurity with you too, and he will now see you as a big baggage and liability to carry.

If you must also attract a man or make him love you the more, you must avoid too much physical contact with him. This is especially in public places and arenas, because he may see it as a prove that you are too possessive of him, though he might not let you know, but he will be feeling this deep inside him, and this might send him off.
I must also point out clearly here that most ladies send me off their ways through some of their arrogant and selfish behaviors like, condemning or criticizing other ladies in his presence. You might think that you are doing the right thing, but this repels men off you, especially when you do this, to kill his interest in a certain nice lady that passes by or lives close by.
Another great mistake that most ladies do, which sends men off their tracks, is the mentality of seeing men as being only driven by sexual satisfaction and urge. If you know a guy or you have a guy as a friend, and you want him to fall in love with you, please, don'’ do this through sexual appeals, instead, follow the emotional and moral appeals.

So, if you must capture a man’s whole love, you must capture his emotional and sexual appeal at once, don’t start with the last, it will ruin your efforts. Yes, men are highly driven by sex, it is natural in them but this is not a sue way of nailing a man for a lasting relationship though.

While lecturing you on the need for attraction, I must also let you know that this is most times dangerous. It is dangerous in the sense that most times, when we are attracted to some one, we forget ourselves so fast that we even ignore their bad sides, which might be a source of leakage in the long run of the relationship. Examine your current relationship now, this might be the cause of its difficulties and bad times. So before making move to attract a man, please do not forget to consider both his good and bad sides, and check if they can be compatible with your own. Don’t be fooled by the desire to be in his arms.

Now, let us look at those things you need to do as a woman, lady or a girl to attract that man of your dreams without walking up to him, to tell him that you admire or love him.

Number 1. Pleasant smile: giving him a pleasant smiles, whenever you see him, either in the office, at school, shopping malls or on the streets, will make him think, “this lady likes me” definitely, that is the pure nature of men. And this would make him think of you, whenever he is alone.

Number 2. Friendly greetings: if you are the type that believe in frowning face whenever you come across that man you have been secretly admiring, please avoid it from today, because this repels most men off you. Men exaggerate many things about ladies, so he might think you hate him with passion, when the reverse is the case.

Number 3. Buy him gifts: please don’t try to misunderstand this point, when I mention, buying gift, I do not mean you should start enticing him with constant gifts, please no. But you can attract him by buying him inexpensive but valuable gifts, at special occasions. You may buy him a perfume, a sports magazine or its equivalent, depending on his interest, which must strive to discover. Please don’t buy him underwear, as this may portray a wrong impression of sexual interest to him, which may either repel him off, or make him take advantage of you and dump you later.

Number 4. Invite for religious programs: depending your denomination and his, you can always invite him for a religious programs at your church; this will give an impression that you are decent, and that is what most men like most, when searching for a long term partner.

Number 5. Whenever you are with hi, discuss current events like news, science and technology, or even sports: this another good way of attracting a good partner to your life, because this will give an impression that you are current, intelligent and trendy, which is what every man love most in ladies. No man wants to get involved with a zombie or a dummy. But don’t show too much of it, always give him a room to prove that he knows better than you do, men likes to think that way anyway.

Number 6. Always send him text messages, reminding him to take lunch, shower or an appointment (if you have his phone number, which you must strive to have). This makes him believe you care of his well being, and no man likes to miss a lady that shows concern

Number 7. Always ask after his mother. It is quite obvious to us all, that men love their mothers more than their fathers, so for you to make a man think more intimate and passionate about you, try show concern about his mother, you will see him come running to you for a marriage. Because this will give him an impression that you care about his family, and he will be happy to have someone who will help him care for his mother.

Number 8. Pay minor bills for him. And please do not misunderstand my point here, I do not mean you should pay his electricity, water, gas, feeding bills. Please do not do this, this is his responsibility as a man. But if you jam him incidentally on a public bus, train or the likes, offer to pay his fare. This will kill his innermost desire to have you as his partner, at least, you have showed him you would not only be a liability to him, if he takes you up, but a source of assistance to him, so he won’t love to miss you either. You can also do this at saloon, but not often, so he won’t think you are buying his love with money, men think wrongly most times, of course not their fault anyway.

Number 9. Visit him whenever he is down or sick. But please while going, do not buy a flower, instead buy a book that you know that he enjoys or may be a magazine. This will keep him wondering what you are up to, so he would make more effort to know what you have in mind, which is exactly your desire anyway.

Number 10. Do not dress provocatively whenever you know you must see him. This might make him see you as every other girl in town, and hence repels him off, or make him use it as an advantage over you, and dump you later. So make a distinction, if you must attract that man of your dreams.

Number 11. Pay close attention whenever he is telling you or some else something, and smile politely at every polite speech he makes. This will make him believe you are endearing and as well enduring, so he will like to share or two ideas with you most often.

Number 12. Please avoid physical contacts with him. This is very dangerous, so avoid it entirely, so he won’t develop just a sexual attraction towards you, which is not likely to last, once he get laid with you. Keep him in suspense, men love it most, because they like trying difficult things, to at least, prove their prowess to their friends and their selves.

Number 13. Never argue his words or with somebody else whenever he is around. This will make him believe you are wise and understandable lady, which is what every man likes in his woman, but if you argue, you are trying to tell him that you are wild and know a lot, this might send him off. Instead throw in friendly suggestions, he will like you the more.

Number 14. Always glance at him with a friendly and charming smile whenever you meet him, whether on the street or at a shopping mall (of course you know how to use your wits, I don’t think I should teach you that too). If you do that, you have set his heart on flames of utmost desire to get closer to you, and if possible, to have you all together. But please don’t initiate the first move, no matter how much you feel for him, don’t go, instead attract him just like the female Eagle attracts the male one, and then allows him to do the rest work.

And please if he comes, stress him a bit, but still show him you are interested, don’t be scared to loose him, but please, be wise when doing this, so he won’t get pissed off and run, but I promise you, he will hang on.
Good luck in your romance life, and please don’t fail to let me know about your successes with men through leaving me a comment. I hope to hear your successes very soon.

How to Find Your Dream Man

So you're frustrated by your search for Prince Charming? You're tired of always ended up alone and disappointed by yet another burnt out relationship? Follow these tips and get back on track.

Instructions
o 1 This is a horrid
o first impression
The single worst mistake that many woman make is looking for a prospective Mr. Right in the same pace that some girls look for Mr. Tonight. This may not apply to you specifically but the general concept warrants discussion.
Why on earth would a lady date a man that they found in a club? Ladies, in case you don't know, what we are looking for when we go to a club is a three letter word that starts with S and ends with X. That probably isn't a shocker to you but think about it: Is this something to base a long term relationship on?
Forget about one night stands here. I'm assuming that you did NOT take him home. I'm assuming that you met an attractive man at a club or party.
This man has seen you "clubbing" meaning that you were probably not dressed as modestly as you normally would be. I can tell you ladies that while we males may not always be very logical our brains are very organized.
I can tell you that any girl that we meet in a club is automatically filed away in the "Conquest" bin, and not the "potential marriage" bin. Of this I can assure you.
o 2 The average man
o thinks about sex all
o day long. At least in
o here he is surrounded
o by plenty of things to
o take his mind off it.
Where then can you find an attractive man in an environment that is more conductive to your cause? There are lots of places. Get creative. The key is that it will be a place that caters to the higher functions of the mind.
Let's take an example: Barnes & Nobles. See, places like these create a filtering system that you need. The men that come in to B&N are not just old, married, or nerdy. There are lots of collage students there too and their minds are in the right place while they are there.
I'm not suggesting that you start hanging out at bookstores or libraries, don't worry. I'm merely suggesting that while you are in these environs that are more conductive to your cause that you become more receptive and when you are clubbing or partying you become less receptive. This leads me to the next step.
o
o 3 Let us chase you. Men love a good hunt and I'll tell you something else: If a man seems too eager then it is a sign that you should run the other way. It may be flattering but remember that if it's sex that he's after then another girl would probably suit him just fine. This is doubly true if he's been drinking.
The best man is a self-confident man, right? Let us chase you. We do not respect "easy" girls, period.
o
o 4 In the same vein is another concept that needs to be addressed here. There is no worse mistake that a woman can make than "Giving it up" too soon. We are hunters, remember? A man is going to be with you for two reasons.
Either he wants to have sex with you or he wants to build a relationship with you. If you give him the first too soon you will never really know which he was after. Make us wait! This is the secret to finding out our truest intentions.
A man that has feelings for you and respects you as a woman and a person will not pressure you. Period. I suggest making us wait for a minimum of three months, but five is better and after marriage is best.
I don't say that out of a sense of religious propriety. It stems from the fact that if a man is willing to wait for you that long then chances are very good that he legitimately loves you.
See, we males often confuse lust with love and if you give us the first before the second has had a chance to establish itself we may simply leave. We are hunters at heart, never forget that

The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes MEN Probably Make With Women And What To Do About It........

"The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably
Make With Women And What To Do About It..."
Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With
Women And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of
These Deadly Common Mistakes...
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much of A "Nice" Guy
Have you ever noticed that the really
attractive women never seem to be attracted to
"nice" guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive
female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"
but for some reason they were never romantically
interested in YOU.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how
"nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do
because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION
for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that
powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of
logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET
OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on
it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that
you want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince" Her To Like You
What do most guys do when they meet a woman
that they REALLY like... but she's just not
interested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to
feel differently.
Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER
CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO
ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel
differently about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in
the world do you expect to change that FEELING by
being "reasonable" with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, we beg,
plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or
Permission
In our desire to please women, which we
mistakenly think will make them like us, us guys
are always doing things to get a woman's
"approval" or "permission".
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men
who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
You don't have to treat women BADLY for them
to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well
means "always getting her approval and permission
for things", think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval.
Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their
approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if
Wussy guys who chase her around and want her
approval annoy her...
MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With
Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a
nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and
had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat
her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen A
LOT.
Well guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this happens...
That's right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear
message:
"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so
I'm going to try to buy your attention and
affection".
Your good intentions usually come across to
women as over-compensation for insecurity, and
weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I
said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In
The Relationship With Her
Another huge, and unfortunate, mistake that
most men make with women is sharing how they
"feel" too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don't realize this, but attractive
women are being approached in one way or another
ALL THE TIME by men.
An attractive woman is often approached
several times a DAY by men who are interested.
This translates into dozens of times per week,
and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of
men.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women
off and sends her running away faster than just
about anything is a guy who starts saying "You
know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two
dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just
like all the other guys who fall for her too
fast... and can't control themselves.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works
For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it
comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful woman, he
INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based
mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five
full years now, I can tell you that women usually
have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by
things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more
average and unattractive men with beautiful women
than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities
in men... and they're more attracted to the way a
man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and
communication correctly, you can make women feel
the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to
you that YOU feel when you see a beautiful young
woman.
But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN
how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how...
MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make
is giving up before they've even gotten started...
because they think that attractive women are only
interested in men who have looks and money... or
guys who are a certain height... or guys who are
a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only
interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a
man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract
women like a magnet...
And if you learn what they are and how to use
them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just
because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use
your body language and communication correctly,
you can make women feel the same kind of powerful
sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you
see a hot, sexy young woman.
MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to
look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of
guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to
like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea...
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can
walk all over... Women aren't attracted to
Wussies!
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In
Each Type Of Situation With Women
Now I'm going to blow your mind...
A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than
men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for
example, if you're out on a date with a woman,
and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don't know exactly what to do and
exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there
looking at her and getting nervous, she won't
help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and
dating...
Approaching a woman, getting her number,
asking her out, kissing her, getting physical...
everything.
If you don't know what to do in each
situation, you will probably screw it up... and
LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY
how to go from one step to the next with a
woman... from the first meeting, all the way to
the bedroom.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from
EVER having the kind of success with women that
they truly want.
I know, guys don't like to make themselves look
weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.

Are You Dating a Potential Cheater?

Most single woman seeking a committed relationship would rather avoid dating men who are likely to cheat. But according to statistics, an estimated 50 to 70 percent of men cheat on their mates. How can you tell if the man you’re dating is one of these potential cheaters? Wouldn’t it be great to have this information about him before getting too deeply involved?



Find out If He’s Prone to Infidelity

Studies reveal that some men are more likely to cheat than others because of their background, their past history, or certain character traits. Using this information, I’ve designed a 7-question quiz to help women determine whether or not a man is prone to infidelity.



Decide Who Not to Date

The Potential Cheaters quiz can help you make an informed decision about whether or not to continue dating a man, or how deeply to get involved. By identifying and avoiding the potential cheaters in the dating pool, you can avoid a lot of unnecessary headaches and heartaches.

Rate Your Date with the Potential Cheaters Quiz

Before you fall head-over-heels in love or get too attached to the new man in your life, rate your date’s cheating potential with the 7 questions below:

Potential Cheaters Quiz
1. Does he thrive on adventure?
2. Did he have a great deal of sexual experience prior to your relationship?
3. Does he have lots of female friends?
4. Does he have male friends who are cheating on their wives or girlfriends?
5. Does he have a parent who cheated?
6. Did he cheat in any of his past relationships?
7. Does he feel that infidelity is really no big deal?


What the Answers Mean:
1. Some men enjoy all the suspense, deception and intrigue that go along with infidelity. They’ll cheat just for the “thrill of the chase.”
2. Studies reveal that men who were extremely sexually active before settling down in a committed relationship are more apt to engage in sex outside that relationship. Don’t expect a leopard to change his spots.
3. Close friendships with women are a common starting point for infidelity. Friends can quickly turn into lovers. The closer the friendship, the greater the odds that it will develop into an affair.
4. Never underestimate the power of peer pressure. If his friends are cheating, he’ll soon be cheating too.
5. Infidelity tends to run in families. Children of unfaithful parents are often programmed to follow in their footsteps, considering infidelity to be the norm.
6. “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” There are exceptions, but statistically speaking, if he cheated once, he’s more apt to do it again. His history will probably repeat itself.
7. If he doesn’t believe that infidelity is wrong, his behavior will reflect his beliefs.


What Kind of Cheater Is He? - Evaluate Your Results

Generally speaking, the more ‘yes’ answers, the greater the likelihood that a man will cheat. But some answers carry more weight than others, so you’ll want to take a closer look at the results.

If you answered yes to #1, #2, or #5 (but not all three), he’s a POTENTIAL CHEATER who may very well cheat on you if the opportunity presents itself. If you decide to get involved with him, you need to make it difficult for him to cheat. Familiarize yourself with the signs of infidelity, so you’ll know if he starts to stray.

If you answered yes to #3 or #4 alone, together, or in combination with #1 or #2, he’s a COMMON “GARDEN-VARIETY” CHEATER who will cheat if he feels he can do so without getting caught. Your challenge, if you insist on dating him, is to stay one step ahead of him by learning to recognize the early warning signs. If you know how to spot the signs of impending infidelity, you may be able to stop his cheating before it starts, or leave before he breaks your heart. Familiarize yourself with the 21 major categories of telltale signs.

If you answered yes to #6 alone or in combination with #1,#2, #3, #4, or #5 you’re dealing with an EXPERIENCED CHEATER who knows how to hide the obvious signs of infidelity. The most important thing to do if you’re dating this man is learn to spot the subtle signs of infidelity, because these are the signs that will inevitably give him away. Get a good infidelity reference guide, watch him like a hawk, and try not to get too deeply involved.

If you answered yes to #7 alone ( This one’s the biggie!) or in combination with any others, you’ve got a HARD-CORE, HABITUAL CHEATER on your hands who’s probably already having an affair. (You could unknowingly be the Other Woman.) For this man, cheating is a way of life. If you don’t want to become an infidelity statistic, leave this man alone. Should you decide to take on this challenge, you’re in serious trouble if you don’t know how to spot the subtle signs of infidelity. Forget about watching for the usual signs of cheating. This man is an expert at covering his tracks. The best thing you can do is become adept at spotting the subtle signs of infidelity, since there won’t be any obvious signs to give him away.

Understanding the Rage of Jealousy

Is jealousy wrong? We’ve all grown up to believe that it is. We take great pleasure in using it as an excuse as to why our relationships fail, in pointing this fact out to others as justification for our own actions, and accusing our loved ones of it as if it is some gigantic three headed monster.


I want to rearrange your thinking a bit. This article is meant to be provocative in the sense that it is designed to challenge the status quo, the politically correct, and socially acceptable platitudes.

First, let me redefine three simple words that we use interchangeably, but which, in truth, have very subtle different meanings.

Jealousy – the desire of what you believe to be already yours.

Covetousness – the desire of that which is not yours.

Envy – the desire of that which is not yours and begrudging the one who actually has it.


These definitions are actually taken from the Bible. The Bible tells us that God is a jealous God, and that presents a problem to those of us who were raised to believe that jealousy is wrong. But in truth, jealousy is the desire of that which is felt to already belong to you and that you feel someone else is trying to take.

I am not debating that jealousy can lead to all sorts of problems in a relationship, it is true, but it is not necessarily wrong.

Let’s take a simple example from a marriage. When you got married, you probably made several promises in the form of vows. These promises hold meaning that your spouse takes literally. If, let’s say, another man enters the picture, then the odds are your husband will become jealous. He feels he has a right to keep you only to himself and not to share you with another man.

This can obviously take extreme forms, I know—such as his anger whenever you so much as act politely to another man. In such cases, that is often the result of mismatched expectations. This is when jealousy can become extremely dangerous. But in the first example I can’t find any fault in the jealousy. After all, you did promise to keep yourself only for him. That is an expectation that he has a right to cling to.

Let me break the three words down into something more practical. Jealousy is when you believe that the local town is trying to take your house in order to build a new park or something. It is your house. You spent time, energy, money and love into it, and you're not about to let it go without a fight. That is a form of jealousy.

Covetousness is when you are driving through a neighborhood and you see a particular house that you say, "Wow! I'd love to have that house! That is the house that I want!" The house is not yours, and though you may never do anything actively to get it, the desire is a form of covetousness.


Envy is when you pass by that same house and say, "That house should be mine. So and so who lives there doesn't deserve that house. I do!" That is envy. Not only do you desire what is not yours, but you begrudge the one who actually has it.

HOW TO CONTROL JEALOUSY IN A RELATIONSHIP

The first and most obvious way is to have good understandings of each other’s expectations. If your expectation for your mate is a 9 and he or she is only a 5, then you will not be satisfied, you’ll be irritated, and possibly get upset.

There must be a free and honest flow of communication in these areas. You must determine what the expectations are, why they exist, and what must be done to either meet these expectations, or lower them to a more realistic level.

This MUST be done. To simply say, “It’s your problem, you deal with it,” is a sign of an immature relationship. Mature and healthy relationships work through problems together. A rule of thumb is, “If my spouse has a problem, then I have a problem.”

This is true in any close relationship. To simple ignore the problem, or even to tell the other person to get over it, grow up, or get a life is the height of arrogance. Why are you even in the relationship then? What? Did you really expect to marry someone perfect?

Learn to work your problems out together. I have followed a basic principle for years that has been extremely successful in solving relationship problems. I always tackle a problem from the point of view of the person who sees the problem the worst. If my wife sees the problem as a 10 and I only see it as a 5, I still treat it as a 10, or my wife believes that either I don’t really care, or I didn’t go far enough.

So much of the jealousy in relationships is the result of one or the other treating the perceived problem as less important as the other one does. That only convinces the other person that there is a legitimate problem he or she needs to worry about. If you tackle the problem from the other person’s point of view, you have given them a sense of relief and comfort. They believe you care as much as they do. That builds trust.

Often times, if their point of view is extreme or even absurd, following this suggestion will allow the fog of fear, jealousy, and rage to dissipate enough for them to see that they are wrong.

Another key is to stop worrying about whether or not the situation is fair to you. Life isn’t fair--sorry to break the news to you. So stop trying to demand that it must. Learn to roll with the punches, and you’ll find that life is much better than you really believe.

Often, your mate’s expectations aren’t fair. They might even be extreme. But if you simply dismiss them as being ridiculous, you only convince them that they were right and the jealousy and rage continue to build.

Take some good advice: don’t let that happen. Learn to deal with problems as bad as whoever sees it the worst and stop trying to make life fair to you. Do these two things, and you’ll find that your problems are much more easily fixed.

WHERE JEALOUSY IS A GOOD THING

There is actually some good in jealousy. If your mate is jealous over you, then that at least shows that he or she has interest in you. That which you care nothing about, you care not if you lose it or not.

So it is not a completely bad thing. It can certainly lead to bad decisions, actions, and problems, but to be frank, I kinda like it when my wife is jealous of my time. I enjoy having someone think highly enough of me that she wants to spend time with me and is jealous when I spend that time with other people.

Maybe you ought to rethink your attitude towards jealousy. It is very possible that you are the actual cause of it, not your mate or the other person in the relationship.

Why Men Cheat

Why do men cheat is a question that is not so easy to answer and before we even start we have to clarify what we really mean by cheating. Cheating to some people is just glancing at a good looking woman as she walks down the street or thinking about that sexy looking number that’s displayed on the calendar or thinking ‘if only I was single ….’.


At what point a women believes her partner is cheating on her is largely dependant on her level of insecurity. A woman who lacks confidence, doesn’t feel good about herself and is full of insecurities might become paranoid at the mere mention of another woman while someone who is full of self-confidence and is comfortable in herself and with her relationship is far less likely to get concerned with straying eyes and a meaningless comment.


Before answering the question ‘why do men cheat’ we need to confirm our understanding as to what is normal behavior for a man. Can we get upset when a man enjoys a little flirtatious behavior or remarks on the good looks of super model if the act or comment bears no substance? An innocent action that in no way impacts the way a man feels about his partner is harmless, it’s how much he is and can be trusted to draw the line that matters.


Cheating has been made easier over the years with couples often leading relatively separate lives with the lone trips to the gym, the night out with the lads / girls and the common reluctance to find activities that can be enjoyed together. Then there’s the children to consider so couples often take separate holidays and work different hours which all add up to lots of time when you can meet someone else. It’s not even intentional but the likelihood that a friendship will start and progress is far greater than if you were in the company of your partner.

Often men see sex as just fulfilling a need, a way to satisfy themselves certain in the belief that if they have no real feelings for the person they are sleeping with then it’s not really cheating. They fail to see the wider implication of what impact it will have on their partner.

One of the main reasons why men cheat is when the intimacy has been lost from their relationship, when they have had enough of ‘not tonight I have a headache’, or ‘I’m too tired’ or ‘no the children might hear’. Men have sexual desires and sexual needs that need to be fulfilled so if the love, romance and intimacy has been lost in your relationship your man will be far more inclined to seek fulfillment elsewhere.

Some men just seem born to cheat and it’s in their very nature to sample what’s on offer. Such men are hard to form a relationship with but it is often apparent from the outset as too what type of relationship a woman is letting herself in for. An old friend of mine just couldn’t resist the handsome hunks on the beach, the ones that really loved themselves and thought they were god’s gift. She knew that they would soon move on and that she was just a passing phase but she just couldn’t help herself, got caught time and time again and every relationship ended in tears because she just wasn’t strong enough to cope.

It is thought that cheating men fail to have any feelings of guilt until after the event and, it has to be said, the longer man get away with it the more likely they are to continue with men having a greater tolerance and liking for risk.

For some men cheating is a way to boost their ego with each additional conquest enhancing their ego and being seen, in certain circles as a real status symbol. The ultimate impact on their relationship is something that never occurs to them at the time, when they are being outwardly encouraged to continue with their infidelities, and by the time they see the error of their ways it is generally too late.

It can never be said that men don’t know that cheating is wrong it’s at what point they consider the wider implications and what emphasis they place on perceived need which is perhaps different.

How to Tell if a Single Woman is Interested in You

I would like to share some information to single men on how to tell if a single woman is not interested in you. These are signs to look for:


She won't make herself available. Even though they may sound like valid excuses, if she were interested, she would make herself available to see you. If arranging a date to get together becomes a struggle and you are the only one working on the problem, move on.


• Conversations will be awkward and forced. After all, you are the only one trying to keep it going.
• Conversations and the tone in her voice will be neutral. Not necessarily negative, but they will be absent of that up-beat positive mood that an interested girl gives.
• The important thing to remember is that most single girls don't want to hurt your feelings. So, if they aren't interested, they will be just neutral in their tone and expect you to pick up the fact that there is an absence of a "come on" in their manner. Many men will assume that since a girl hasn't come out and said "drop dead," then maybe she is interested.



Don't forget, if you aren't sure whether or not a girl is interested in you, then she probably is not. When a girl is interested, she will let you know.